This story by Karen salmansohn is a clear example of how much we are afraid of the unknown which we call as the fear.
Lets take a closer view on ‘What is Fear?’
Types of fear.
1. Instinctive Fear.
Suppose you are walking in a town at night time, your surroundings are very silent. Suddenly, a sound of loud boom came due to firecrackers.
At that instant you will get a shock. You will see what was that sound oh, it’s just a firecracker. I am safe. Your body will feel relieved that it’s nothing dangerous. You will live.
This is instinctive fear, it is more of a gift to us. An alarming system given to us by nature so that we can live for another day.
This will happen to everyone, doesn’t matter how calm you are by nature. Your body wants to live, use the damn alarming system. Don’t start thinking why did I shiver, I am a calm and spiritual person. 😒
2. Conditioned fear.
Conditioned fear is the boundaries made by us as we go through our lives. It might be due to some childhood traumas, or you might have developed some phobias or you are fearful of losing a loved one or it might even be a destructive thought planted by someone else like some religious leaders or terrorists.
An example of this, People fear that if they do a sin they will end up in hell or if they don’t pray to god they will go to hell.
Fear arises when we live too much in our minds. We suffer thinking about what might happen next, if we do this what will happen or if we don’t do this what will happen.
What we suffer is that which does not exist right now, an assumption of future. Mind makes us think about all kinds of stuff. We start living in the imagination, torturing ourselves as it exists right now. Suffering which doesn’t exist is called insanity right?
It is a hallucination created by our minds of what might happen next.
You can plan for tomorrow but right now people are living in tomorrow. We do not know what lies beyond but what good will it do, if you sit in a closed room grieving about it.
Like really ‘oh my God’ what will happen if I lose my job because of the way I reacted in front of my boss. Now your mind will play all kinds of trick and you will feel trapped. Your perception gets distorted.
Maybe your boss is loving your work and thinking about giving you a promotion.
Who knows what might happen next? At the most, you will die and lose your body. At least live before you die because you will die one day anyway.
Fear is a veil, an agent which divides us and higher self or what we call divinity within us.
“Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” – Rumi.
When I was a kid of around 8-9 years of age. I used to fear the darkness. Whenever someone said to me to go in a dark room, I used to start shivering and sweating.
It felt like some scary monster is standing there, I got so fed up of it that one day I decided, after everyone is asleep at night I will go to that dark room and stay there and fight the monster.
I went to the room with a wooden stick and as i got inside my heart beats got so fast. I was terrified of it. But gathering some courage, I just sat there wild awake. After sometime might be hours. I told myself see, there is nothing here why are you so afraid.
I just slept in that dark room, the best sleep I ever had around that time. Only for my parents to ask in the morning what the hell are you doing here?
I smiled and said I fought darkness and now there’s nothing that can make me feel terrified.
Rising beyond your fear will make you so good, like you have conquered the world by yourself.
To overcome your fears requires a certain amount of courage and you must be willing to be true to yourself. Just think about things you fear and understand why you fear it? It is just your mind playing tricks. Learn to tame your mind, don’t be enslaved by it.
Either you can face everything and rise or you can forget everything and run.